Take a moment to describe the “perfect love.” Go on, grab a pencil and a piece of paper and write down your description of the most romantically beautiful, heart-racing, rollercoaster-love you can imagine.
Um. Does anyone else’s list look like this? Yeah, of course not!!!
We’ve only be brainwashed to believe this is what love looks like for the past…well, all of our lives! From the Disney movies to the Hollywood movies to the Bollywood movies. But none of us really expect these things, right? Wrong. Deep down inside, every little big girl has a dreamy idea of what her love life should look like – complete with a soundtrack and emotional twists in all the right places. But honestly, is this what we really believe love is, is this really all love amounts to? Returning phone calls, awkwardly listening to each other’s heartbeats, watching each other sleep in a creepy-but-not-so-creepy way, kisses on the forehead, words that may or may not carry any weight? I don’t know about you, but that’s not exactly what I think of when the words “perfect love” come to mind.
Now don’t get me wrong – I’m not some senile, embittered woman with 10 cats and a cold heart. These aren’t bad things to want. It’s just that sometimes, us girls can get a little carried away (to say in the least). We expect romance and security and respect and tenderness and strength and gentleness and meekness (and the rest of the fruits of the Spirit) – and a servant’s heart to top it all off. We often forget that at the end of the day, we’re all just people; humans. And, as we are well aware, humans mess up, humans aren’t perfect. That means US GIRLS aren’t perfect either. As young women, we should wait for a man (notice I said MAN and not BOY) who treats us with respect. Most of all, we should wait for a man that loves the Lord first and foremost and reflects Jesus in his day-to-day living. Anyways, mini-soapbox-lecture over; the point of this paragraph is to prove that I’m not an old, bitter, cat lady. My intention here is to bring to light the idea that we have a flawed concept of Love. Notice the capital “L” there. There’s a difference between love and Love. And the one I want to focus on is the latter.
So let’s go beyond the whole human interaction aspect of this, let’s get past the dating/marriage scene and into the spiritual significance of this.
Here’s the Bible’s description of “perfect love:”
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things,endures all things. Love never ends.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8a
There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear.
1 John 4:18a
Perfect love. Much more than forehead kisses and awkward hugs, much more than butterflies and goosebumps, much more than a simple (and sometimes fleeting) emotion.
Love is an action.
Love is a behavior.
Love is mindset.
Throughout all of history, from the Garden of Eden to the concrete jungles we now reside in, to every future generation that steps foot on this earth, only one Man has and ever will fulfill this definition of Love: Jesus Christ.
Don’t believe me? I’ll prove it to you.
- “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude.” – 2 Peter 3:9
- “It does not insist on its own way” – Luke 22:42; Philippians 2:5-8
- “it is not irritable or resentful” – John 3:17; Psalm 103:12; John 10:10-18
- “it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth” – Colossians 3:5-6; Psalm 5:4; Psalm 45:6-7a; 2 Corinthians 5:21; John 8:3-11; John 14:6
- “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things,endures all things” – 2 Peter 3:9; 1 Peter 2:21-25; 1 Peter 1:3-9; Isaiah 53:4-6
- “Love never ends” – Romans 14:7-9; Hebrews 7:22-28
- “perfect love casts out fear” – Matthew 14:30-33; Psalm 27:1
He IS Love. And when you compare HIM to society’s definition of love, which of the two is the Better Love? Isn’t it better to have Love itself than to have the cheapened form of the love that this world offers? More often than not, our minds are filled with unrealistic expectations for a current/future spouse, our hearts are filled with dreamy images of white picket fences and all that could be – all that we believe should be. While it’s not wrong of us to desire the blessing of marriage, it is wrong for us to allow that love to possess the throne of our hearts.
There is a far better Love than anything or anyone in this world can offer. A Love that is faithful to the end, a Love that always protects us and never harms us, a Love that knows us better than we know ourselves, a Love that forgives, a Love that offers boundless grace, a Love that will make our hearts beat to a rhythm our ears have never heard before.
THIS Love is calling out to YOU. Day in and day out. THIS Love waits patiently as you try to fill your life with everything else this world has to offer. THIS Love doesn’t care about your past, only about your present and future. THIS Love doesn’t play games with your heart. THIS Love believes you are unique, special, and worthwhile because that’s how He created you. THIS Love makes you strong. THIS Love calls you beautiful. THIS Love may not kiss your forehead, but It rejoices over you with singing. THIS Love holds your heart in the palm of His hands. THIS Love catches every tear you cry in a bottle. THIS Love doesn’t just hold your hand in public; THIS Love carries you across the threshold, THIS Love publicly displayed His affection for you as He was nailed to a tree. THIS Love knows your every heartbeat, your every breath; and at His word, your heart skips a beat. THIS Love listens, THIS Love knows.
You were created to experience a BETTER Love than the kind this world has to offer. You were created to love and be Loved by Love Itself.
Realize this Truth. Understand the magnitude of this.
In the end, if you end up with a man who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who actually listens to you and calls you back, who doesn’t think you’re too much of a romantic for wanting to stargaze, who can watch you sleep without being creepy, who will kiss your forehead without making things awkward – if you end up with such a man as this, then blessings to you, my friend. But just know that even that man cannot fill your heart with more than temporary thrills. Know that the only one who can and will permanently fulfill every longing of your heart is the Alpha and Omega Himself. He is the Lover of your soul. Nothing will fill the Jesus-shaped void in your heart except for Jesus Himself. And all those things listed above? Yeah He does them and MORE:
It’s every girl’s dream to know the Perfect Love. We go through our whole lives either thinking that it’s so far away or that it’s just beyond reach…that if we just do this and that, if we looked more like this and less like that, if we had more of this and not so much of that – THEN we could fall in love and live happily ever after.
Ladies (and gents), listen closely: Your happily-ever-after is patiently waiting at the altar for you – no matter how many times you get cold feet, no matter how long you leave Him standing there, He does not grow weary of waiting for you. He will never tire of pursuing you. Because He Loves you with a Better Love than you have ever known, He Loves you with a Better Love than you could ever imagine.
Perfect Love is the only worthwhile Love.
Perfect Love is the only True Love.
Perfect Love is the only Forever Love.
Perfect Love is the Better Love.
Darkest heart that You have saved; I can’t find a better love.
I set out for ruined lands, shadows heavy where I stand.
You took death & called me friend, I can’t find a better love.
Oh, You take me as I am! Oh, now I understand:
The greatest gift to give a man is to give him grace to live again.
— Better Love | Green River Ordinance