Forgive and Forget? Yeah Right.

“If I say, “Yes I forgive, but I cannot forget,” as though the God who twice day washes all the sands on all the shores of all the world, could not wash such memories from my mind, then I know nothing of Calvary love.”

If by Amy Carmichael

There has been a countless number of times I’ve heard my friends say this, “Sure, I can forgive, but I’ll never forget.” I never really understood that statement or why they would say that. I always thought that was wrong. Christians have to forgive and forget. That’s what we are called to do. That’s what Jesus does for us. He forgives. And He forgets. I never realized why they said that because I had never experienced anything done wrong against me that hurt or effected me so much that I wouldn’t be able to forget it. But finally it happened. I was hurt. Someone did wrong against me. I thought I forgave and I wanted to forget, but for some reason I accepted that there was no way I could ever forget what this person did to make my life miserable.

I have simple words today.

Without Calvary love, we all would be no where.

Do you understand that the son of God gave His life for you? I mean really who are we not to forgive and forget?

No amount of wrong someone has shown to us could compare, in the least, to all that we’ve done against our God. And let’s not mention the times we’ve hurt other people so much, too.

We are no one to say that we cannot forgive and forget.

Just like Amy Carmichael writes, if I don’t believe that my Jesus has the power to wash away my memories so I can truly forgive, then there is something wrong with my own understanding of Calvary love, not the person I can’t seem to forgive. It’s funny how it always turns back to examining self. How have I shown grace to those who need it the most? How have I spoken kindly about people who seem to deserve otherwise? How have I loved like Christ?

In the end it all comes down to your heart. Keep loving just as He would, and you’ll see how He will make things new.

Above all, keep fervent in your love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins.

1 Peter 4:8

We must believe that He has given us His strength, His grace and His power. He has given us the overwhelming ability to cover the ugly past with a beautiful blanket of love and grace. Just as Jesus shows us grace, we must show others grace.

I’ve never had the opportunity to talk to the one who I feel has wronged me. Throughout my days I have felt so many different things I thought this person deserved to hear. But then I stop and remember Calvary love. The love of Christ in my life has exceeded any sort of fulfillment I could receive from fixing the past myself. The work that Jesus did on the cross for me obliterates any need I have to make things right. He made ALL things right. He works for me. He is my lighthouse and leads me through every storm.

Today I am thankful for Jesus Christ’s example of forgiveness and forgetfulness. He is the ultimate example. Forget what people say.  Today I will choose to be like Christ. Today I will choose to love. Today I will choose to forgive and forget. Because it is what’s right. 

3 thoughts on “Forgive and Forget? Yeah Right.

  1. Thanks for this nice reminder of the mercy of God. This reminded me of Psalm 103:12 “as far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our transgressions from us.”

    I think forgiveness is one of the areas of life where we certainly have a part in it, but it only lasts when God works through us.

    1. Thanks for reading, Wills! I 100% agree. Without God’s power, we are SO weak. We absolutely need Him in all areas, especially when our desire is to truly forgive others.

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