Fall is tied with winter for being my favorite season. You would understand the confusion I may have of these two seasons if you lived in Texas. In Houston, the first day of fall, which was a few days ago, had a high temperature of 92 degrees farenheit and a low of 73 degrees. Sure, that may not seem like a fall day to you, but a low of 73?! That’s amazing. Pretty soon, we’ll be seeing the boots and tights come out. We’ll switch over from thin, summer scarves to thick, knitted, comfy ones. There’s just something about this time of year that brings comfort. It also brings great change. We all witness the leaves turn to beautiful colors and eventually wither away as the temperatures drop. And those of us who suffer through seasonal allergies all of a sudden can breathe. It’s just great. Saying goodbye to summer (hopefully) means goodbye to crop tops and shorts that you wore when you were 8, but now you’re 25…
Modesty may be easy for a lot of us as the seasons change, but I propose that modesty has a lot more to do with how our hearts are dressed than how our bodies are.
There is a reason for everything we do. What we say, what we wear, how we act – it all matters. Because it all matters, we have reason to think twice before speaking, before dressing and before acting. We have reason to make sure our intentions are the right intentions rather than the wrong intentions. We have reason to think of how what we do would please the Lord, and if we know it wouldn’t please Him, we have the chance to make the best decision.
Modesty isn’t just about the clothes you wear, but why you’re wearing them.
Here are some tips to keep you on the straight and narrow to modesty:
Tip #1 – Ask the Lord to assist you in dressing yourself with godly character each day. It’s not really about what’s on the outside, but what’s on the inside. If the heart is full of Jesus, you can bet that 9 times out of 10, modesty won’t be an issue for you.
Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.
1 Peter 3:3-4
Tip #2 – Think about Jesus. I would say this is the best tip for anything that has to do with anything in life. Jesus was a simple man. We can say that He definitely wasn’t noticeable for His outer appearance. He was on a mission and He didn’t let what was on the outside affect what He was here to do. Just like Jesus, we must stay focused. Follow His example.
Tip #3 – How will what you’re wearing affect those around you? I know that we can’t predict or even know what’s in someone else’s head, but it is worth the try. We have to always think of others before ourselves. Both men and women should be accountable for how they dress, keeping each other in mind. We all have a role to play in being modestly dressed. We don’t want to attract the wrong attention and we definitely don’t want people to second-guess who we are and what we stand for because of what we are wearing. When a person first sees you, they don’t see your heart, they see your outfit. Don’t let your outfit get in the way of what’s in your heart. And definitely do NOT let the way you’re dressed be the reason your brother or sister stumbles. Brothers, don’t think modesty has nothing to do with you. Thinking twice about what you wear, even if it’s just another button down with the sleeves rolled up and a pair of pants, is important. And sisters, don’t let your choice of dress be a weapon you use to get what/who you want. Instead, be a good example to the younger girls looking up to you. Remember, it’s all about your heart, not about how you look.
Tip #4 – If that little voice in your head is telling you, Maybe you shouldn’t wear this, then it’s safe to say that maybe you shouldn’t wear that. We should trust that “the little voice” in our heads is led by the Spirit, which lives in us! There could be many reasons why we shouldn’t step out of the house wearing certain things. In the moment, we may not be thinking of all those things, but the Lord knows what’s best. Trust the little voice.
Tip #5 – Make good decisions WHILE shopping. Check your heart status when your head starts telling you things like, “Oh, I look real good.” It is a great feeling to feel confident in what you wear, but confidence is different than a heart that is filled with just wanting to look real good. Also, while shopping, have a specific place/event in mind of where you would wear these outfits to. Tbere’s no point buying clothes if you don’t feel 100% confident you can wear them in any and every context of your life. Sure, some outfits are more acceptable to wear for certain events, but generally speaking, if something you buy to wear leaves you doubting if you’ll wear it, then just don’t buy it.
Our outfits describe our personalities and make a statement about who we are. No matter if you’re wearing the fanciest, latest styles, to the cheapest sweater from the thrift store, you’re still making a statement. Modesty doesn’t mean all we can wear are turtlenecks and baggy pants. Modesty doesn’t have to mean that you have to change your personality. But it does have to mean that you are boldly making the statement that you are a child of God. What you wear should never point people away from Christ. What you wear should never intentionally cause a brother or sister to dwell on you or your body. What you wear should be something you would wear with Jesus. It all goes back to intent.
Ultimately, EVERYTHING we do is to honor and glorify our Lord. Knowing Him, He wants us to be dressed in the fruit of the Spirit. He doesn’t want us distracted or distracting others. He wants us focused and ready to tackle the tasks He has assigned to us. We must know whose we are and be proud to be called His. Our bodies are His temple. He wants us to know our worth. And let me tell you, our worth isn’t cheap.
Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own? For you have been bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body.
1 Corinthians 6:19
Let’s dress to impress. But dress to impress the only One who matters.