To all my ladies looking for a healthy relationship, but are tired of finding frogs instead of prince charming – I know it can get rough out there. I think I have a few ideas that can help you out. God has been showing me a few things, and I feel like some of them could help you get to the root of why finding this mystery guy can be so tough.
It’s not because a Prince Charming doesn’t exist! He does, but not in the way that you’re expecting.
Here are some typical Prince Charming traits:
- A Leader
- A Man of Principle
I’m sure there are a dozen more that I have left off the list, but you get what I mean.
Now those are very important traits to desire, especially when it comes to your Prince Charming. It’s also tough to find all of those qualities in a man. Have you ever thought about the fact that you have a Prince Charming that puts all other men to shame? Did you know that He’s longing to see you and have a relationship with you?
Let’s go over all of those character traits in detail.
Heroic: In all of the fairytale stories we hear, the prince is the one that risks his life to save the princess from a dragon, a wicked witch or something else that’s evil. In the end, they fall in love and live happily ever after. I know a story that can top all of those. It involves a Man who came down to the Earth, saw that you were destined for destruction in a fire without escape! With no hesitation, He let the bad people do whatever they wanted to Him, all so that He could save you. And He didn’t just fight a dragon, or destroy an evil witch – He was even accused of something that He didn’t do. He could have easily shown them who was boss and gotten all of the fame and recognition He wanted, but instead He let those people nail Him to a cross. They mocked him, beat Him, and put a crown of thorns on His head. Without saying one word, He took it all. Because He LOVED you. He wanted to be your HERO. (Romans 5:8-9, Luke 19:10)
Intelligent: He is all-knowing. He knows us to our very core. And these verses will help you understand this characteristic of Christ better. (Psalm 139:1-2,4)
A Leader: The dictionary defines a leader as the “guiding or directing head” That is exactly who Jesus is. He guides and directs you. (Isaiah 58:11, Psalm 31:3, Psalm 73:24)
A Man of Principles: A man of principle has high standards and good moral ground, not settling for less than what is deserved. He also has a strong foundation. There is no relationship with a stronger foundation than the one you can build with Jesus. (1 Peter 2:22, Hebrews 4:15, 1 John 3:5)
Funny: It’s very important to have a sense of humor, laughing brings joy and eases stress. Having someone who can make you laugh is really important. I think Jesus can be hilarious! He makes me laugh and smile all the time, usually when I need it the most.
Trustworthy: Having someone who you can trust is really important and unfortunately really hard to find these days. With Christ you don’t have to worry about anything getting out or being twisted. He knows everything you’re about to say before a thought even forms in your head. He not only will listen to you, but He will help you solve the problem and overcome whatever you’re struggling with. He will ease your mind and your heart. (Psalm 111:7, Psalm 22:4-5, Jeremiah 29:11-12)
Understanding: No one understands your exact situation and what you are going through more than Jesus Christ Himself. He sympathizes with you. He takes your burdens as His own. The beauty about Him is that he turns situations around and gives you peace. He helps you figure out how to solve the problem. (Philippians 4:7)
Caring: There is no one who cares more for you than Jesus. I mean, do you know anyone that wants a thousand times better for you than yourself? He’s there for you like no human can be. He wants to give you the desires of your heart. Who else can say that and be willing to follow through completely (Psalm 37:4)? He is also compassionate. (Matthew 9:35-36, Matthew 15:32)
Loving: There is no greater measure of love than the love Christ displayed when He died on the cross for your sins. He took your spot. Some of you would consider dying for someone maybe if they were a good person. But would you die for someone who deserved death? That was our fate; we deserved death.
Even when we fall, when we hurt Him, He still shows us grace and mercy. He still loves us even when we don’t make time for Him.
“By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us…”
1 John 3:16
“… Jesus knew that his hour had come to depart out of this world to the Father, having loved his own who were in the world, he loved them to the end”
According to Google, unconditional love is defined as affection without any limitations or conditions.
“But the steadfast love of the Lord is from everlasting to everlasting on those who fear him…”
“Love endures all things”
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Forgiving: He forgives us for everything we’ve done wrong if we repent. From the past, present, and FUTURE! YES, I SAID FUTURE! This doesn’t mean we should just continue sinning, knowing that we’ll be forgiven eventually. It’s grace in the times that we are weak. It’s hope and assurance that we have a loving God who knows it is a struggle, but is there to catch us when we fall. We can’t stand without Him. (Ephesians 1:7 Colossians 1:13-14, Daniel 9:9, Psalm 103:12)
Along with the characteristics I listed above, let’s look at more qualities we can find in Jesus Christ:
He’s a good listener. He WANTS to hear how your day REALLY went. Every bit of it, from the moment you woke up and brushed your teeth, to the time you hopped into bed and pulled over the covers. As women, we complain that guys never truly listen or care about what matters to us, but Jesus does.
Do you ever feel like when you get into arguments with people, sometimes they bring up your past – stuff that maybe you hoped would have been forgotten or overlooked because it was your PAST? Jesus Christ forgets all of that once you come to Him. He lets go of your past (Hebrews 10:17). He wants the best for you; it makes Him happy to see you successful and happy. All He wants from you, is your time, and your heart. That isn’t asking too much right? I mean why not give your time and your heart to a relationship that is going to last? With Christ it’s not just a one-way relationship. It’s not just you doing all of the work – He wants the best for you. He will be there to hold your hand (Psalm 73:23). He will be there to fight for you. He will be there in the good, the bad and the ugly. He’s your ultimate companion. Your first love.
Isn’t that amazing? THAT is what I call love. And He can be yours. All you have to do is open your heart to Him. Allow Him to come in and transform your life. With HIM you’ll go from being a mere girl, to an heiress, a princess.
Now when you have a relationship with God, and once you fall in love with Him, your will should be aligned with His. These are a few quotes that have helped me and I believe them completely.
“When God knows you’re ready for the responsibility of commitment He’ll reveal the right person under the right circumstances. Wait patiently. Don’t waste your time searching and wishing. Grow and be ready. And you’ll see God will give you a love story far better than you could ever dream of…”
“A guy who loves Jesus will respect you, pursue you, pray for you, pray with you, and treasure you. He won’t try to pressure you or control you; he will gently walk beside you and lead you. He will worship with you, most importantly, remind you that only God can truly satisfy.”
Fall in love with Christ, seek Him, trust Him, follow Him, and work for Him. And watch Him write you the perfect love story with your very own Prince.