Friend Zone

The Lord your God is in your midst,
    a mighty one who will save;
he will rejoice over you with gladness;
    he will quiet you by his love; Zephaniah 3:17

Have you ever been “friend zoned”? Perfect example comes from the 80s classic “Pretty in Pink.” The oh so odd yet lovable character Duckie is in love with the main character for almost the whole movie. He is always there when she needs him, provides much humor and companionship, and goes above and beyond just to make her smile. Who wouldn’t fall for this guy? Unfortunately for Duckie, he never escaped the “friend zone.” Instead, the love of his life ends up falling for some other guy. Duckie was never more than a friend.

Most of us can probably relate to Duckie. How many times have you been intentional about getting to know someone, got emotionally invested, and invested much of your quality time with them only to hear the words, “You’re such a great friend!” I think it’s safe to say that we all get that similar twinge in our chests. As horrible as it may feel at the time, it tends to happen pretty frequently. In a perfect world, the other person would easily reciprocate the same intentions and feelings.

With that in mind, think of this scenario. There’s this incredible man. His words are full of patience, wisdom, and humility. He works tirelessly just so you get to enjoy all the pleasures of life. He even endured torture and faced death for you. If that wasn’t enough, he still guides you and delights in you daily. How do you respond? Just as the main character from Pretty in Pink, you mainly keep him close as your “bestie.” Despite everything that he has done for you, there is a wall that you constructed that impedes further intimacy of relationship.

If you are lost, I am talking about the one and only Christ! Think about it. He did EVERYTHING for you, and He still continues to actively provide for your needs. Do you put up walls when He just wants a closer relationship with you? I know I have the tendency to push Him aside when I get distracted by something new and shiny. Do you “friend zone” God? Are there times where you dismiss God as that friend who will always be at your side regardless of how you treat Him? When you intentionally do that, you are abusing your relationship with Christ. He gave everything, so shouldn’t we at least open ourselves to Him? All He wants is a personal relationship with us. Don’t put God in the “friend zone.”

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