Do you ever wonder what the secret to the perfect relationship is? This could be a friendship, a familial relationship, or a romantic relationship. Let’s face it. Only Disney seems to have the perfect fairytale stories despite having trouble within the storyline. Real life is almost never like in the movies. Words are thrown around. Pride takes the front seat. Suddenly, your best friend from sixth grade throws in the towel over something as trivial as a Facebook status. How often has something similar happened to you in your life? Does this mean that there really is no such thing as a longstanding relationship? Are we as humans just doomed for failure?
So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. | Philippians 2:1-4
Jesus really knew how to lay down the truth! How do you maintain a healthy relationship? You put the other person above yourself. I have heard it put this way. Being in a relationship is trying to out-serve the other person. Selfishness will never ever be an encouraging aspect of any relationship! When one or both parties are being selfish, there is no room for love and respect.
Jesus showed the greatest act of service and humility by dying for us. By sacrificing Himself, Jesus showed the greatest act of love! He said that there is no greater love than give your life for a friend. He did that precisely. Does that mean that you have to die for your friend, family member, or significant other? In sense, you do have to die.
You have to kill the urging from the voice in your head that always says, “You are right. Your way is so much more efficient. This will benefit me. This is the easy route. I need to win…” The litany goes on and on! Jesus calls us to be united by having the same mind and love! He actually mentions mind twice! Did you see that? Being considerate of others is such a huge component in every kind of relationship. By doing the opposite, you will only be left alone and miserable.
I do not want to be miserable, and I certainly don’t want to make my loved ones miserable. Have I done that, though? Oh. MOST. Definitely. I am very much a broken, sinful being. Unfortunately, there have been many times where I didn’t kill my selfish voices, and I hurt my loved ones with my words and actions even unintentionally. I pray that God gives me the same heart and mind as Jesus. I pray that I can out-serve those who love me. I hope you join me on this quest!