I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord. | 1 Corinthians 7: 32-35
When you get married, a lot of things change. Before, I just had to wake up early enough to get ready for school or work, but now there’s this other human being that relies on me to wake him up for work. Before I just had to stick to my schedule, but now I have my husband’s schedule to work around and figure out how both of our schedules coincide. These are just a couple of examples out of hundreds, but you’re life as a married person compared to your former, single life is vastly different! One thing I really want to focus on is my walk with Christ before and after marriage.
Before I got married, I was happily single going to school, building relationships, and regularly walking with the Lord. No matter how busy my life got, I knew that if I didn’t sit at His feet I would just be miserable and fall into despair. I loved spending time in God’s word and having active conversation with Him. When Jaison entered the picture, he was one of the best answers to prayer in my life. I truly believe that God made him for me.
Once we got married, my free time drastically dropped. Well, I will rephrase that…My alone time became non-existent. Let me explain my average day at the start of our marriage. When I woke up, my husband was there right next to me. When I got up, he got up. Then I would go off to work, and when I returned it was time for dinner. Then we would have family prayer and Bible reading as a family. On my days off from work, we just wanted to spend quality time together. One could even say that we were addicted to each other.
As great as this may seem for my relationship with my husband in the short-term, I knew that this was hurting my personal relationship with Christ and ultimately hurting my relationship with my husband for the long-term. I was so caught up in this new role as wife that I was neglecting my role as daughter of the King! Jaison and I both tried to ignore the elephant in the room, but one day we couldn’t ignore it any longer and both agreed to go to separate rooms and have genuine alone time with God. It was amazing! When we finished, we shared what we read, what was on our hearts, and about God’s grace in our lives.
Life has lots of distractions and for me, my spouse is one of my largest distractions! We love being together, but we realize the importance of having a personal relationship with Christ will always trump our marriage relationship. Each day has its own struggles and trials, but I am so thankful for a gracious God who still loves me and forgives me even though I don’t deserve it. No matter how many times I struggle and fall, He is always there with open arms.