How to Love the Hard to Love

We all see the terror, trauma and tragedy that’s happening in the world. And in different ways, some of us have faced these things ourselves. We’ve all wondered what we can do to make a difference in the midst of all of it. We think, I wish I could make a difference.

Often that’s where it stops, though. We stop at the thought. I wish…

But we can make a difference. We don’t have to wish.

We can act. We can do. We can love.

How do we love? How can we love?

Step 1: Pray

A word of advice: stop reading the news and stop talking about the current world events that seem to be worlds away from you. Start praying.

If we want to make a difference in a way that matters and impacts eternity, we have to look for help from the only One who knows how to love. We have to humble ourselves in His presence and ask Him to change our hearts – and not just to change them so that they’re different, but to change them in a way that they’d be parallel to His heart.

But I’m not talking about the easy prayers. I’m talking about the on-your-knees, on-your-face, weeping, kind of prayers that’ll make you love the very ones the world hates. The countless number of words that exit our mouths in conversations with humans can do nothing. They can never compare to the pouring out of our hearts to the only One who can do anything.

Can we truly love a stranger? And even further, how can we love someone who is so hard to love? Well, why not look to the source of love Himself, who doesn’t only provide love but is love.

Think Christ.

Jesus Christ came to this world to love. He didn’t come to just love the easiest, most obedient and seemingly perfect. He came to love the most sinful, messiest, dirtiest, most evil of us. And here’s when all of us should realize that we fall into that latter category.

If I were to have lived back then, I’d be standing by the women caught in the act of adultery. Everyone would have wanted to stone me. So why did Christ choose to love me when I am amongst the hardest to love? Because that’s what He does. He is love. He leaks love. He’s bursting with it. And He can’t help it. He loves to love. So much so that HE would give His life.

So, love. Keep loving. And don’t stop.

If you’re anything like me, you even doubt that you’d be capable of loving in such a deep way. And we’re probably right. There’s not a way that we could love the way we should. We are to pray, pray without any inhibitions.

Prayer is action. Prayer is doing.
Prayer is fighting on the frontlines.

If we are acting in any way, without prayer, I assume the impact may not be eternal.

Praying for the lost and hurting means we care about what He cares about. It shows that we love. And maybe most of us will never be in the middle of the brokenness, but believe me when I say that when we bring the nations and lost souls to the throne of grace, He hears. He is always acting. Always moving. AND always listening. Currently – right now – He is saving souls of those we think are the most far gone.

Though we doubt our abilities and don’t believe we could really reach in to a dying, broken, hurting world and see things change, even still, love makes all the difference.

And a heart that loves starts with prayer.

You can make a difference. Your prayers can make a difference. And I know the first difference is going to be in your own heart. He’s going to change you.

God be gracious to us and bless us, and cause His face to shine upon us—Selah. That Your way may be known on the earth, Your salvation among all nations. Let the peoples praise You, O God; let all the peoples praise You. Let the nations be glad and sing for joy; for You will judge the peoples with uprightness and guide the nations on the earth. Selah. Let the peoples praise You, O God; let all the peoples praise You. The earth has yielded its produce; God, our God, blesses us. God blesses us, that all the ends of the earth may fear Him. | Psalm 67

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