A while back, I was watching a show called Gossip Girl. The premise behind it was about two different worlds: the high society class and the lower class “wannabes.”
In both worlds are tons of slander, gossip, and money wasted on elegant parties and cocktail dresses. However, there was one major thing both worlds had in common: they would do everything they possibly could to be on top, to make their name known for the world to see. What would cost them? They would gossip, scheme, make everyone around them insecure, and destroy relationships that mattered to them only for their own selfish gain.
Growing up, I struggled to make friends, and I felt like the entire world was watching my every move—waiting for me to mess up or make a fool of myself. In many cases I did, but that was part of an immature teenage me.
I was so caught up with wanting
to be popular and being liked that
I forgot who I was created to be.
For I am afraid that when I come I may not find you as I want you to be, and you may not find me as you want me to be. I fear that there may be discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, slander, gossip, arrogance and disorder. | 2 Corinthians 12:20
Paul spoke these words to the Corinthians because he didn’t want them to be stuck in their worldly thinking. The Corinthians witnessed the Lord’s work through Paul’s ministry; however, throughout his visits, they would insult and challenge his authority. What the Corinthians couldn’t seem to grasp is that Paul wasn’t like other preachers; he wasn’t after their money or some huge status.
He only wanted them.
He wanted the Corinthians
to know Christ.
Immature teenage me would have acted the same way the Corinthians did. I would have done anything for my selfish gain. I would have gossiped, slandered, and wasted money on things I didn’t need. And the scary part was I did do those things, and even to this day I catch myself in the same sin.
What would I have gained by gossiping about another person? What would I have gained about being the most popular in everything?
I would gain nothing.
No friends. No happiness. No purpose.
One of the things I’ve learned in my walk and my relationship with Christ is that I don’t need to do all those things to receive some kind of reward. I already have a reward. My citizenship is in heaven because I invited Christ into my life and repented before Him the sins I’ve committed.
Instead of being “Gossip Girl,” I want my life to live out God’s truths.
Be an encourager:
Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body. |Proverbs 16:24
Be a loving neighbor:
Do not go about spreading slander among your people. Do not do anything that endangers your neighbor’s life. I am the Lord. | Leviticus 19:16
Be kind with my words:
The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. | Proverbs 18:21
A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret. | Proverbs 11:13
Be a person who fosters love:
Whoever would foster love covers over an offense, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends. | Proverbs 17:9
By living a life that fosters these Christ like attributes, I can attest and say how grateful I am with the friendships I’ve made in HIM. My happiness rests purely on the fact that HE brings me joy. My purpose is to know Christ more and TO MAKE HIM KNOWN.
Dear Lord, I want to keep growing and becoming more like Jesus. Help me to pursue wisdom, healthy habits, and deeper relationships with YOU and others, so that I may blossom into the fullness of who YOU created me to be and produce good fruit. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.