I had a plan.
I was definitely, without a doubt, for SURE going to finish mailing out our thank you cards to all of our wedding guests no later than 6 months after the wedding.
And yet, there I was – one week after our one year wedding anniversary… still licking envelopes and scrambling to find current addresses.
No matter where you are in life right now, I’m sure you can agree that at some point in time, things didn’t exactly turn out the way you pictured in your head.
As insignificant as mailing out thank you cards was in the grand scheme of things, I was really disappointed in myself for not accomplishing that goal! And you know what made it worse?
My Instagram feed.
I love social media for many reasons. Within seconds, the miles between many of my friends and relatives can be closed through cyberspace. But as we all know, these sites are also the perfect place for temptation and jealousy to breed if not used carefully.
There they were – dressed all cute, showing off their perfectly contoured cheekbones and posting about all the 95 achievements they made within the last 24 hours. How did they do it? When did they have time to go to work, attend a Zumba class, get their nails done, maintain a spotless home, cook a delicious 3-course meal AND look absolutely stunning the entire time? I was “loving” all of their posts but in the inside I didn’t understand why I couldn’t be just like them.
What was wrong with me?
“One of the reasons we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.“ | Steven Furtick
The comparison game is ugly.
We exist in a society that is completely focused on “putting your best foot forward” and showing off how amazing life is online. On their own, these posts aren’t bad. But among the millions of other profiles and posts on the Internet and standards that are impossible to reach, it all adds a crushing weight on our shoulders.
One of the fastest ways to discourage yourself is by getting trapped in the sin of comparison – all it does is breed envy and discontentment. So what are we to do when we are tempted to compare ourselves to others?
“Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life.“ | Galations 6:4-5 (Paraphrased)
Let this sink in:
God cannot do what He wants to do in and through your life if you are constantly trying to be someone He did not create you to be.
The next time you start to feel bad about not being “picture perfect,” remember that all God is asking of you is to do the best with what He has given you.
God has so many wonderful things planned for you. You might look at yourself and see everything that you aren’t, but God sees what you ARE.
Perhaps you didn’t finish school in 4 years like you wanted to, or maybe potty-training your 2-year old is taking longer than you expected. Whatever your difficult reality is, know that God has a plan and purpose that He is bringing about through your situation! Think about what you’ve learned through the process and if there have been any fruit of the Spirit produced in your life. If you don’t understand the purpose now, have the faith to believe He will reveal it to you someday!
Count the blessings in your life.
Praise God in every circumstance.
Remind yourself that Little Miss Perfect doesn’t exist. Neither does Supermom, Superdad or whoever else’s highlight reel you’re watching.
Let’s become a society that doesn’t obsess over our imperfections. Let’s be genuinely happy for our neighbor’s achievements and smile at the unique futures God has planned for each one of us!
Note: I saw this post on Facebook the other day and thought it so perfectly aligns with the message I’m trying to convey. Enjoy!