There’s nothing like the months and months of build up for a wedding. From the cake to the flowers, and photography to invitations, no detail should go unnoticed. With all of my wedding experience, I’ve gotten to see things through the bride’s eyes time and time again. She’s invested so much time into making sure everything is what she’s always dreamed it would be for the big day.
It’s her day.
Before the sun rises, the bride is up. It’s her day. Of course she can’t sleep. Prayers are lifted up to the Father as she and her maids try their best to prepare her heart for what’s actually happening. Sure, I’ve never been married, so I don’t really know. But I’ve been a part of this process enough times to know that it’s a surreal moment for any girl. The day she’s been waiting for is finally here.
She can’t believe it.
It’s her day.
First step: hair and make up. The straighteners and curling irons are at maximum heat and are ready to transform normal into what would be on the cover of Vogue. So many bobby pins and so much more hairspray. Then we move on to make up. Even the simple girls end up putting a lot more make up on than they ever have before.
The bride tries not to panic internally though she knows the fate of her face is in the hands of this seemingly wonderful, make-up artist she found on Instagram. Then the eyes. Eyeshadow, fake eyelashes, eyeliner, mascara. Lipstick is a must, too. Matte, gloss, whatever she wants.
Though she looks perfect, she knows she’s not herself. The bride thinks of her groom throughout this process. And she’s comforted knowing that he knows the real her.
She then slips into her beautiful gown. And she tries to believe that this day has come. She’s finally the bride. It’s her turn. She knows she looks like a doll. She holds the prettiest bouquet of fresh flowers and she walks down to her groom. I can imagine she feels as if she’s in a dream.
After all of the celebrating, the new bride and groom spend their first night together. Once the bride has realized that her dream has become reality, that life is now with this boy who’s chosen her forever, she reverts to her real self. She takes off all the make up. She slowly removes the layers of what seems like paint on her face, and all the heaviness on her eyes. She washes her face and sees the different colors flow down into the sink. She gently pats her face, that is exhausted from all of the smiling, with a towel and looks in the mirror. She sees herself and thinks, this is me. She takes out all the pins one by one and let’s her hair loose. Then, she takes that beautiful, big dress off. She puts a much too big, comfy t-shirt on, with some shorts underneath and crawls into bed, thankful to be herself again.
And there he is.
It’s her day and there he is.
The wedding night. A beautiful night when two souls commit to living and loving sacrificially for the rest of their days, believing that by His grace they’ll be a picture that reflects the most beautiful love –
Christ and the Church.
Beyond the make up, the nice dresses and gorgeous flowers, the wedding night is when a pure bride and her patient groom strip everything else away so that only love remains.
I don’t know where you’re at today or what’s going on in life. I don’t know if you’re on the mountain top rejoicing through this season of life or if you’re in the pit with a broken heart. Wherever you are, and with whatever is going on, I know you will crawl into bed tonight with a whole day of life lived that’s filling your heart.
We start out our days ready to battle life head on. We do what we need to do, say what we need to say and look exactly how we should to play the part. But deep down inside, we know we’re hiding.
Sometimes our hearts are full of joy just waiting to burst, but more times than not, our hearts are heavy with burdens too great for us to carry. The greatest gift we have of knowing Christ is knowing for certain that He sees us. He sees us just for who we are, just as the patient groom sees his pure bride. The groom sees beyond the posed and presented perfection. He sees his bride’s heart and cherishes her even when all the temporary beauty fades. And on the wedding night, when he holds her for the first time, she’s safe. As cherished as a bride must feel on her wedding night, He cherishes us in that way in every moment of every day.
“I am my beloved’s, and his desire is for me. Come, my beloved, let us go out into the country, let us spend the night in the villages. Let us rise early and go to the vineyards; let us see whether the vine has budded and its blossoms have opened, and whether the pomegranates have bloomed. There I will give you my love.” | Song of Solomon 7:10-12
So I encourage you to be with your Beloved today. Allow Him to hold you, the raw, real version of you, not the seemingly perfect you. Enjoy time with Him. He loves you, He sees you and He absolutely delights in you.